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The Top 5 Financial Mistakes in Divorce

There are common financial mistakes that individuals often make during a divorce. By avoiding these pitfalls, you can safeguard your financial well-being and make informed decisions. Here are the top five financial mistakes to steer clear of: Rushing to Settle: Divorce can be emotionally draining, and many individuals are eager to finalize the process as…

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Four Relationship Patterns That Predict Divorce

Marriage can be a beautiful and fulfilling relationship, but one that can be fraught with lots of challenges. When a couple continually experiences negativity and conflict within their marriage it can take a toll on the relationship . How can we know whether that pattern of conflict will result in divorce? Psychologist Dr. John Gottman…

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How Do Bills Get Paid During Divorce? Understanding Pendente Lite Support

Divorces in New Jersey can sometimes be protracted and there is often a need to establish support orders to ensure that bills get paid during the divorce.  This is called pendente lite (latin for “awaiting the litigation”) support, which is support for a spouse and children during the divorce process. Pendente Lite support, also known…

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10 Divorce Books to Help You Through

Divorce can be a difficult and emotional experience for everyone involved. There are many helpful books that offer guidance and support to help navigate through this process. Here are the top 10 divorce books that can help you through the divorce process and life after divorce: The Good Divorce by Constance Ahrons: This book offers…

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5 Key Steps to Prepare Yourself to Divorce a Narcissist

One of the most frequent questions I am asked in my initial client consultations is whether I have any experience handling cases involving a narcissistic partner. In my almost 25 years of practicing family law, I often have to negotiate with or litigate against a narcissist. Because of the narcissist’s extreme sense of self-importance, lack…

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Not Necessarily Romantic-But Definitely Smart: The Top 5 Reasons You Need a Prenuptial Agreement

It is not the easiest conversation to have when you are in love and just about to start married life with someone, but deciding to enter into a Prenuptial Agreement (PNA) before marriage is definitely a smart move. These are no longer agreements just for celebrities and the super wealthy; but rather a PNA (a…

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How to Fight Like a Grown Up In Divorce

Being a Capital “A” adult is not always easy and certainly not always fun- but in divorce it can help make the process smoother and less costly for you and your family. It can also help protect your children from unnecessary divorce related trauma and preserve civility in your relationship with your soon to be…

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Resourcing: How Do Boundaries make you safe?

In the span of two weeks, I have had questions about personal boundaries come up a bunch of times.  A friend over a morning walk asked in a conversation about why it’s so difficult to set boundaries at times and what I think the interplay between boundaries and safety are.  Yesterday my daughter told me…

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