How To Prepare to Meet With A Divorce Lawyer

Meeting with a divorce attorney is an important first step in your divorce process. Make sure you are prepared to maximize your consultation with an attorney by getting organized in advance. Here are ten practical steps to help you get ready for that important first meeting.

1. Gather Financial Documents: Before your meeting, compile essential financial documents, such as bank statements, tax returns, mortgage statements, and records of assets and debts. Having this information available for your lawyer helps them better answer your questions and streamlines the financial information needed for your divorce.
2. Document Your Marital History: Provide a comprehensive account of your marriage, including the date of your wedding, your children’s birthdates, and a timeline of significant events or issues that led to your decision to divorce.  If there is a history of domestic violence or abuse, financial abuse or infidelity or a history of alcoholism or substance abuse, it is important to share this information with your attorney.
3. Determine Your Goals and Priorities: Establish practical priorities and identify your goals.  If you are settlement-minded, talk to your lawyer about alternative dispute resolution vehicles like mediation and collaborative law.
4. Think About Your Children’s Best Interests: For couples with children, think about the historic parenting responsibilities and what is in the best interest of your children with respect to custody and parenting time in advance of your meeting with an attorney. Be prepared to discuss your preferences and goals.
5. Prepare Questions: Compile a list of practical questions to ask your attorney during the consultation. Inquire about the legal process, the potential timeline, fees, who will be working on your file, how you will be billed and any other practical concerns you may have. Your lawyer is there to provide guidance and clarity, so do not hesitate to ask.
6. Budget for Legal Costs: Discuss your financial readiness with your attorney. Be aware of their fees, the retainer, and potential additional costs. A practical budget ensures that you are financially prepared for the divorce process.
7. Get Technically Ready: In today’s digital age, ensure you have the necessary technical equipment ready, including a reliable computer, fax machine or scanner to digitize documents, and a functional Zoom camera. It is also helpful to have a dedicated, non-work email to use to communicate privileged information with your lawyer. These tools are indispensable for effective communication and remote legal proceedings.
8. Seek Practical Support: Divorce can be emotionally challenging, so consider whether you need additional support to cope through this process. Seek port from friends, family, and professionals who can help you navigate the practical aspects of the process.
9. Interview Lawyers: Research and interview potential divorce lawyers to find the one with the expertise and experience you need. Check out their website, read their reviews or their blog articles (ahem!)  Ask friends and other professionals for recommendations. The person you entrust with helping you through a divorce should be someone with emotional intelligence, good people skills, compatible ideas about settlement and alternative dispute resolution as well as expertise.

Preparation is key when meeting with a divorce lawyer. By focusing on these practical steps, you will be well-equipped for your initial consultation and the entire divorce process. Your attorney will be your legal advocate, but it is your practical readiness that will pave the way for a more efficient and successful journey toward a new chapter in your life. If you are ready to move forward, contact Georgia Fraser, Esq. of Fraser Family Law Office LLC for a consultation. 609-223-2099.